How to be Resilient
What is Resilient?
A resilient person bounces back from obstacles and disappointments. This skill is acquired through experience. Just as a child cannot learn how to walk without an occasional fail, he cannot learn how to succeed in life without experiencing occasional setbacks.
Why is Resilient Important?
Some children get discouraged when they meet with failure, adversity, or Criticism. Others give up entirely. However, they need to understand the following facts:
- Failure is inevitable in endeavors. James 3:2.
- Adversity affects everyone at some point. Ecclesiastes 9:11.
- Correction is Vital Learning. Proverbs 9:9.
Resilience will help your child face life’s challenges with confidence.
How to Teach Resilience
When your child fails.
Bible principle:”The righteous one may fall seven times, and he will get up again. Proverbs 24:16.
Help your child put things in perspective. For example, what would he do if he failed a test at school? He might give up, saying, ” I can’t do anything right!”
To teach resilience, help your child work out a strategy that will help him to improve. In this way, he will take charge of the problem rather than become a victim of it.
” A child who is able to bounce back from disappointments and mistakes is more likely to preserve when learning skills and to become proficient at them”
At the same time, avoid fixing the problem for your child. Instead, help him create his own plan. You might ask him, ” what can you do to improve your understanding of the subject that is being taught?”.
When Adversity Strikes.
Bible principle: ” You do not know what your life will be like tomorrow”. James 4:14.
Life is u predictable. A person who is Rich today might be poor tomorrow; a person who is healthy today might be sick tomorrow. ” The Swift do not always win the race., Nor do the mighty win the battle,” says the Bible, ” because time and unexpected events overtakes them all.” Ecclesiastes 9:11.
As a parent, you rightly take reasonable steps to protect your child from danger. Realistically, though, it is not possible to shield your child from all of life’s Adversities.
Of course, your child may not be old enough to experience the loss of a job or a financial reversal. Still, you can help him cope with other Adversities. For example, the loss of a friendship or the death of a family member.
When your child Receives Constructive Criticism.
Bible principle: ” Listen to counsel in order to become wise in your future.” Proverbs 19:20.
Constructive Criticism is not bullying; it is guidance than addresses an action or an attitude that needs to change. When you teach your child to accept correction, both of you are spared much grief. ” If children are always rescued from their errors,” says a father named John, ” they will never learn. They will jump from one problem to the next, and you will spend your life following them, stomping out the fires that they cause. That makes like miserable for the parents and the child.”
How can you help your child benefits from constructive criticism? When your child Receives it, whether at school or anywhere else, resist the urge to say that the correction is unfair. Instead, you could ask:
- “Why do you think the correction was given?”
- ” How can you improve?”
- ” What will you do the next time you are in this situation?”
Remember, constructive criticism will serve your child well not only now but also in adulthood.
Teach by Example
- Do I admit my mistakes, or do I blame others?
- Do I talk about my failures and what I learn from them?
- Do I ridicule others for their mistakes?